Modern Couple’s Money Guide, Well-Heeled and Rich By Thirty

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Lesley-Anne Scorgie is the founder of MeVest, a money school helping North Americans reach their financial potential. She’s also the bestselling author of Modern Couple’s Money Guide, Well-Heeled and Rich By Thirty. Follow her @LesleyScorgie

The Modern Couple's Money Guide: 7 Smart Steps to Building Wealth TogetherWhat causes trouble in paradise isn’t who picked up their socks or took out the trash (though those things can be annoying too). It’s money; how it’s spent, saved, invested and given.

According to Capital One, 8 in 10 couples fight about money and nearly half feel their partner’s attitude towards money is different from their own . Monetary philosophies are deeply rooted in a person’s values, thus financial compatibility is as important as personality. “Money problems” are cited as a leading cause of divorce and are rarely about money . They’re representations of issues like independence, greed, trust, respect, and commitment.

Take for example a couple where one partner is a compulsive spender and the other is a saver. The saver is bound to feel like their honey is putting the couple’s dreams for the future in jeopardy just to keep up with the latest and greatest cars, clothes, shoes, home décor and more.

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Meanwhile the spender has a YOLO attitude and thinks their penny pinching partner is a cheapskate.

In this scenario financial brawls are inevitable unless the couple learns to bridge their financial gaps by understanding where their partner’s views on money came from and by working together towards common financial goals.

How To Succeed With Money As a Couple

Play As A Team

Teamwork and financial boundaries are critical when planning your future with someone. Though you may not like to deal with financial matters, it’s irresponsible to ignore them. Consider the task of checking-up on your finances like regular maintenance on your car. If you care for your vehicle, it will run smoothly and for longer than if you neglect it. You don’t want to find yourself in a bad financial position you weren’t aware you were creating.

Financial ‘chores’ like paying bills, and buying stocks should be shared equally and each partner should be able to perform EVERY financial chore. Just imagine the chaos if your partner got hit by a bus and was in a coma for a month. What would happen if your mortgage was up for renewal or you needed to pay your VISA bill? Would you be equipped to handle those tasks?

The team approach is also necessary to build wealth, which requires couples to play the exact same game that wealthy people play – to keep what they’ve worked so hard to earn.

Budget

The tool that governs the financial boundaries any couple sets in their relationship is a mutually agreed upon budget. It allows you to spend less time worrying about money, and more time on your relationship. And, rather than being restrictive, you can incorporate affordable fun.

Get comfy with your partner, pull up a spreadsheet and identify all sources of income: employment, government support, your “side-hustle” (no, this isn’t dealing meth, it’s a second source of income). Move on and list expenses like mortgage payments, school fees, and car loans.

Don’t overlook smaller purchases like coffee and banking fees. If you can’t figure out where your money’s going, keep ALL receipts for four weeks; then review. Determine what’s left over – subtract expenses from income. If you’re short, cut back. If you’ve got a surplus, congratulations; you need to save more.

Avoid finger pointing and stick to tried-and-true budget principles – spend less than you make and before you pay bills, save at least 10 to 15 percent for yourself.

Joint Accounts

These days, unless you’re getting married right out of high school, couples bring a full suite of financial accounts and accountabilities to the table. Stats show that it really doesn’t matter whether you merge your finances or not, so long as you’re working towards common goals and follow a budget.

The benefits of combining accounts, loans and assets are: fewer accounts to monitor, easy sharing, transparency (helps with budgeting, taxes and communication), and reduced banking fees. But, sometimes when couples pool money, it creates the perception they’re flush with cash, which triggers overspending.

Your Partner’s Bills and Debt

The partner whose name is on a bill is responsible for paying it. If the bills don’t get paid, lenders will harass you at home and work, and eventually report you to credit bureaus. List the bills in the name of the person who will ensure they get paid in full and on time. If you’re name isn’t on a bill, you don’t build credit (even if you’re a co-applicant).

Legally, you’re not responsible for debt assumed by your partner prior to your union. But, once you’re married or common-law, you’re on the hook for debt accrued throughout the union. A common debate I see with couples is whether one partner should help their indebted love pay off old debts for cars, business loans, credit card balances, etc.

This is a personal choice. If you’re partner’s debts are inhibiting your ability to reach your goals as a couple, you’ll want to help out. If they’re not, perhaps you let your honey ‘sweat it’ so that they learn to never get into expensive debt again.

Develop a Money Master Plan

A written financial plan keeps couples accountable for their actions and focused on achieving dreams. It details goals and strategies for saving, spending, income and asset growth, debt reduction, insurance, estate planning and taxes.

Start talking about your dreams for children, homes, retirement, etc; then break your dreams into realistic steps. Start taking action.

Through good communication, joint decision making and financial planning, couples can avoid ‘money issues’ and focus on what really matters, loving each other to pieces.

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